Hey there! Welcome back to the last instalment in the Eat Simple series. How have you been going with my recommendations in Step 1 and Step 2? Please leave any questions or feedback you have in the comments as I would love to help you with this. We're up to the last step that I believe is crucial for healing the patterns of overeating and emotional eating. However, the work is not over yet; this is where it all gets very real.
Step 3: Open Up a Dialogue With Your Heart
Trust me, I know this can sound a little touchy feely but it is actually the most important step in healing overeating and emotional eating, and is certainly not for the fainthearted. As I've said before, I believe that these patterns are strongly driven by not truly wanting to acknowledge our feelings, or wanting to run/escape from something that is happening in our lives. Being able to slow down and eliminate distractions, steps one and two, will give the space and time for your true feelings to come through, so they are essential first steps. However, the real work comes when you're sitting quietly, taking your time to enjoy this beautiful meal, and you suddenly realise with a pang that you're actually way more lonely than you thought you were. Or that you're a lost soul left wandering after your last break up. And the strongest of my realisations (because yes, these were my big ones)? That I have absolutely no idea why I'm on this planet and what I'm supposed to do with my time here, other than that it is sure as hell not a 9-5 job in IT, and that I have no frigan idea where to go next. I'm sure you can understand, these were nothing short of earth-shattering for me, and trying desperately to avoid it all was wreaking havoc in my life in other areas. Ignored pain always has a habit of doing that!
So how did I move past this avoidance and the initial moments of "Oh, shit!" that I had when it suddenly dawned on me what I was feeling? It's actually quite simple: I let it be. I let the flood gates open, cried over my chicken and salad, and acknowledged what was truly going on for me in my life. And you know the absolute miracle? At some point, the feelings started to shift. I went from my initial reactions of fear and upset from these turgid emotions to something deeper; acknowledgement of my true self. This was my life energy, my soul, coming to meet me and say "Michaela, dear, this needs tending to". In realising that I was lonely, I could do something about it. In realising that I was feeling like a total lost soul after my break up, I could take steps to begin to heal my heart and find love again. And the job? That's why I'm studying Health Coaching and writing my blog; it lights me up! There is no way I would have done any of these things if I hadn't been prepared to go through the fire of emotions and see what was on the other side. Like all things truly worth doing, it wasn't easy, but it's one of the best things I've ever done and the personal growth I experienced was phenomenal. I came out the other side a lot stronger and with a greater knowledge of self which has stood me in good stead ever since.
Every time we open up to our hearts, beautiful, there is a magic waiting for us. This, I promise you. Even when it is all stirred up and intense, and you feel you'll be lost in that wave of emotion, take a deep breath and remember that you are always looked after. Your heart wants more than anything else to be heard and to connect with you, so let it know you've started listening and simply wait for the miracles.
Lots of love,